“My motivation is to feel good and calm; and if, by the way, I can provide someone with a similar feeling, I still feel better”.
We discovered Desirée about two years ago. I remember the day I sent Carla an Instagram message saying, listen to her, she’s amazing!
Since then we are a great followers of her.
Desirée Bela is a communicator woman fighting for a esthetic activism. Esthetic activism is closely linked to feminist activism and antiracist activism.
Last year (September 2018) he published the book “Being a Black Woman in Spain”. A book we recommend in order to learn how certain daily acts of our society need to be revised and modified to improve society.
DESIRÉE CHOSE THE WHITE ODISHA SHIRT AND KALI PANTS IN BLUE. FOR THIS LOOK CHOSE A NWA SAMBA EARRINGS.
Tell us a little more about what you do…
I dedicate myself to afro feminist activism. I have a blog, desireebela.com, which right now is a little stalled, but I hope to get started again very soon and continue publishing content for women with natural afro hair: product reviews, hairstyles tutorials, and others that can help them to take care of their afro natural hair.
I also have a column in the digital newspaper publico.es where I speak more broadly about issues related to racism that concern me. I am very active in social networks, especially Instagram, but in the field of presence I also get part in different activities (lectures, workshops, round tables) related to feminism or racism.
I have published a book entitled “Ser mujer negra en España” which was published in September 2018 and is currently going to the fifth edition.
What’s your motivation every day?
My motivation is to feel good and calm; and if, by the way, I can provide someone with a similar feeling, I still feel better.
What is success for you?
The truth is that the success thing gives me a little fear. The capitalist and competitive society in which we live links us to a very frustrating version of success, because it is unrealistic. For me success, my success, is in wellbeing, in feeling calm, in being able to rest at night. Success is having (few but valuable) people to support and share. Success is to see how my daughters grow up and become wonderful people. Success is also to focus on small goals and get them and enjoy them. This is also success.
Do you think you got it?
I believe that success is not a destiny. It is a path. Because we are always trying to achieve goals, and every time I achieve one I feel this sense of success.
There are many people who have a great ambition to follow their dreams, but they don’t know how or where to start. What would be your advice to someone with these questions?
I have a lot of respect for giving this kind of advice. Following the dreams and being able to fulfill them gives a feeling of fullness, but I think that many times we set goals too big (I don’t say too ambitious) and then we have no tools or resources to achieve them. I think it is a good thing to destroy the big goals closer and more achievable. Thus one enjoys more of the way towards the attainment of these great dreams and becomes less heavy. I if we fail (that failure is positive), if we fail at a smaller target it does not have such a negative impact on us as if we fail at a larger goal.
In which town/city do you live?
In Vilanova i la Geltrú
I work in the Information and Care Service for Women of the city council.
It is very hard for me to choose just one, because in each moment I am more stimulated by a song or another. Right now I stay with Carry me Home, by Jorja Smith.
I am not a person of smells.
Difficult to choose only one too. I will choose “Between the World and Me”, by Ta-nehisi Coates. I was very impressed.
Yakitoro by Chicote, in Madrid.
A historical character:
What was your last trip?
I was in Oviedo recently, takeing part in the muyeres Fest. What little I have seen of the city has enchanted me.
Your favorite color:
I am not a person of favorite things.
How is a day in your life like?
I get up around 5:15, do my workout, shower, do my half hour of prayer (I’m a Buddhist) and I’m off to work. The afternoon may vary depending on whether my daughters are with me or not (joint custody stuff): if they’re with me, they have extra schoolchildren, or I’m with them; if they’re not, I take the opportunity to prepare articles, lectures, etc., and I also take the opportunity to schedule meetings and interviews, since, when my daughters are with me I prefer to dedicate myself to them.
What role do clothes play in your everyday life?
Clothes are one more way to make me feel good. It is one more tool and, from time to time, helps me to show how I feel.
What can not be missing in your closet?
A pair of Texans and a black jacket.
What piece of clothing gives you security?
I tend to look for safety, rather than through the pieces of clothing, with the accessories. I really like the earrings, especially the ones that are big.
Live and let live.